Something nice from my Ate Ace. This is for those who are currently in a relationship, planning to get into a new relationship, getting married, and already married..

1.      Avoid Conflict. Avoided conflict requires repression of anger, which leads to depression of feelings. A genuinely passionate partnership requires conflict, not terminal niceness or withdrawal.
2.      Avoid each other. Occasional withdrawal is healthy. Habitual withdrawal (stonewalling) is death to a partnership.
3.      Escalate. Conflict, skillfully handled, is one of the keys to a great relationship. Conflict out of control is an excuse for physical, verbal or psychological abuse.
4.      Criticize. Habitually speaking (or thinking) criticism is hard on a relationship. Criticism is usually a sign that criticizing partner has some personal development work to do.
5.      Show contempt. Contempt is criticism escalated to outright mental abuse.
6.      React defensively. Fear is natural. Defensiveness naturally accompanied fear. Skillful partnering requires practicing techniques that allow you to drop the defensiveness despite your fear.
7.      Deny responsibility. When you deny your responsibility for your part of the issue, you wind up blaming your partner and trying to change him.
8.      Rewrite history. Remembering mainly the negative experiences in a partnership is a predictor of future breakdown. All partnerships have difficult spots.
9.      Refuse to get help. Partnership coaching and willingness work!
10.  Believe that changing partners is the solution. People may go through several partners while repeatedly avoiding the same issues.